Are we missing the boat of clarity?

Do moms feel like they have to do it all THEMSELVES to be a good mom. Most of us are missing the boat of clarity regarding mothering in a modern world. Here it is......No one can do everything. So, how do we get it done and stay happy and present with our kids?

When mothering my three kids, I spent way too much time in a panic over trying to do everything — signing the daily folder, getting to three different schools on time, showing up to school events, sports, healthy meals, PTO meetings, my own appointments. I would be smiling through the mania and just barely keeping it all in check and then the car engine light came on or the youngest got poison ivy - and the endless to-do list didn't pause for my emergency. No one talks about how you're handling it when you aren’t able to handle it all.  Instead, they punish your kiddo for not having his folder signed or give an unexcused absence because you forgot to call the office. You miss work because you need to stay home with your sick baby and you need to uber to get the car from the shop. UGH. 

Does being a “good mom” mean handling it all like a well put together Meghan Markle?

My kids are grown now and my transition into the next stage of motherhood is in full swing. I can see clearly now that the chaos is gone-

The truth is that doing it all is an illusion. No one is doing it all, the cracks exist somewhere. Ultimately the choice is yours where you let the light shine in. Where do you let things slip and still allow yourself to acknowledge you're a great mom? 

The Cost of our manic schedules:

• Mom’s are Exhausted and overwhelmed by constant multitasking

• Everyone is Frustrated that their days fly by without meaningful connection

• Parents are Feeling guilty for missing the little moments they value most

  
  

Even the most organized moms feel buried by modern day family life. The real cost of “doing it all” is that it often pulls us away from our children, not closer. They honestly don't care if the laundry is done or the dishes are in the sink. They don't care if your socks don't match. They don't care that the rug hasn't been vacuumed this week. They won't remember that at all. They remember you and whether or not you were happy in your life.

But- YOU CARE if those things are done. In order to be happy most of us NEED those things to be done even if we WANT to be spending time with our kids.

We spend hours trying to decide the best way to have it all - meaningful time with kids and a perfectly checked-off list. We want time with our kids without the weight of the other 100 tasks waiting in the background.

I started a business to Help You Breathe

That’s where I come in. At Magnolia & Sage, I help families by:

• Running errands and grocery pickups

• Organizing the home and managing the calendar

• Helping with childcare and transportation

• Tackling the daily tasks that steal your energy

When you let go of the illusion it all must be done BY YOU you open the door to joy and freedom in daily life. My goal is to give moms back their time — so they can enjoy the moments they’ll truly remember.

Magnolia & Sage Concierge — Practical support for busy families in Northwest Arkansas.